In the complexities of modern life, our loved ones often face unseen battles beneath their “I’m fine” exterior. The stressors of our fast-paced society can weigh heavily on mental well-being, making it crucial to offer support and understanding.
If you are struggling to know how to check-in on loved one and coworkers, the tips below may be helpful in guiding you into a deeper conversation about how people are doing amidst the challenges of contemporary life.
Opening Dialogue:
- “It seems like something is bothering you. I’m here to listen if you want to share.”
- “I’ve been ‘fine’ before – I’m here if you want to talk about it.”
- “Do you want to (get coffee/go to lunch/grab a bite/take a walk) later? I feel like we have a lot to catch up on.”
- ” I’m here if you want to chat.”
Guiding the Conversation:
DO…
- Listen actively and refrain from interjecting personal experiences unless asked.
- Inquire if they’ve considered what they might need to feel better and offer support in addressing those needs.
- Maintain confidentiality unless there’s a risk to their safety.
- Normalize their experience by reassuring them that mental health concerns are common in our fast-paced world.
- Plan to follow up by exchanging contact information and offering ongoing support, including resources like websites and hotlines.
DON’T…
- Dismiss their feelings by telling them how they should think or feel.
- Use stigmatizing language like “crazy” which can invalidate their experiences.
- Prescribe solutions; instead, ask how you can assist them.
- Assume they want advice; sometimes, all they need is a compassionate listener.
- Minimize their experience by making comparisons or suggesting it could be worse.
- Overextend yourself by attempting to solve all their problems; offer support but recognize when professional intervention may be necessary.
As we navigate the stressors of modern society, our relationships become essential anchors in turbulent times. By offering empathy, actively listening, and providing support without judgment, we create spaces where individuals feel seen, heard, and valued amidst life’s complexities.
If you would like additional support in how to help loved ones or coworkers, professional mental health counselors through the Employee Assistance Program (EAP), Making Life Easier (MLE), or employee health benefits are there for you.